I was very encouraged that-īob: And my besetting issue, Ed, is not to think more poorly of myself than I ought-it’s the opposite. So, that’s what I was hearing from the story. So, there are all kinds of versions to this and Bob, your style of life is a bit bolder, and you’re not immune to these things. There’s the other-cowering style-where they hear that kind of comment, and they just turn away, in embarrassment and shame, and never want to see anybody else in the camp ever, ever again. One is that bold style that seems to be less affected by the opinions of other people, but it’s still affected by the opinions of other people. The question is: “At the point Bob was a teenager, would you have had anything to say to him about the condition of how he was behaving?”Įd: It’s interesting-even when Bob was talking-I was realizing there are two groups of people in the midst of that kind of response. I was talking to you through him.” It was a sober kind of a self-aware turning point for me-to go back and ask the question, “Why do I care so much about being the center of attention?” It was an unhealthy issue for me.ĭennis: It would be healthy for you to have had a relationship with the author of the book that we’re talking about today, which is entitled- What Do You Think of Me? Why Do I Care?: Answers to the Big Questions of Life-by Dr. I remember walking away from that meeting-I remember just praying and saying, “What was that?” I just remember having this sense of God saying: “That was Me. He said, “We’ve been praying about you all this week.” I said, “Who is we?” He said, “The staff and I have been praying about you.” He said, “You have an inordinate need for attention and trying to draw attention to yourself, and it’s a problem.” He said, “I think you ought to consider some kind of Christian service that involves sweeping up after everybody else is gone.” Well, I’d been at the camp for four or five days when the camp director said, “Could we sit down and talk?” We sat down in the afternoon-Thursday afternoon. So, while we were at the camp, I was doing my best to put my cool self forward so that there would be some affirmation of who I was. I wanted to be one of those cool Young Life leaders. I was aware, as a freshman college leader-I was aware of the fact that the kids who were coming to the camp thought the Young Life leaders were pretty cool. The summer after my freshman year in college, we took a bunch of kids to one of Young Life’s camps. When I was in college, I was a volunteer leader with Young Life ®. I have to start today with an embarrassing and humiliating confession. “What do you think of me?” and “Why do I care so much?” Stay tuned.Īnd welcome to FamilyLife Today. We’ll talk to Ed Welch today about some of what he calls the big questions of life: Our host is the President of FamilyLife ®, Dennis Rainey, and I’m Bob Lepine. No matter how much we get, it’s never enough.”īob: This is FamilyLife Today for Tuesday, October 28 th.

I’m going around-going to my wife / going to my colleagues: “Could you fill me up?” “Could you say something a little bit nice about me?” “Honey, could you give me some kind of affirmation?” That all makes sense to us, but here is the nature of that: “When we live for the approval, or the love, or the affection, or the good opinions of other people, it’s insatiable.

Did anybody, yesterday, say anything nice to you about you? If they didn’t, how did that affect your day? Here is author and counselor, Ed Welch.Įd: Sometimes, I can be waddling around like this big old cup. Bob: Think back to yesterday, for just a minute.

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